“Sometimes the worst place you can be is in your head.”

So many hater!👀

So many players!👀

So many phony people !👀

So many hurdles !👀

Maybe it’s not meant for you to

Make it !👀

Maybe all men are dogs !👀

Maybe all of your friends are snakes!👀

Or maybe …🤔


Please be aware that Self-Sabotage is Real!

I know I speak a lot on toxic friend and relationships . But with  this particular blog I’m going to speak on what  of falling a victim to these type of situations  which is the habit of  over thinking which ultimately results to self-sabotage .

*Self-sabotaging is when a person creates problems that interferes with their long-standing goals.*

So many people are doing this and not even knowing it because the scars from their past cut so deep that it automatically reprogrammed that person’s way of thinking . No different from adopting a child or even a pet from the shelter . If they came from an abusive home then they are automatically on defense mode.  With a wall built and ready to fight to protect the little piece of sanity they have left. Being hurt in any shape , form or fashion doesn’t feel good and nobody wants to continue to endure that type of pain .

With that being said a overthinkers actions are rightfully justifiable . But on the other hand people who have experienced adversity can not allow their past to continue to hinder their future .  You have to allot yourself a designated time to heal and then move forward with your life  !! You are only cheating yourself when you choose to wear the title of “the victim” almost as a scecurity blanket in order to justify your toxic habits and over thinking .That’s when you begin to self sabotage your own joy and you become your biggest problem !!

The harsh reality is No one wants to accept the fact that sometimes the only thing keeping you from attaining your goals is YOU!  YES, It’s perfectly fine to learn from your pain ,be more selective on who is in your circle, and be more calculated when it comes down to the decisions you make in life . But you have to find a realistic balance when doing so . So give yourself time to heal then HEAL DAMNIT!! Stop picking that scab , stop crying a river , stop choosing to remain the victim, Stop blaming and punishing people in your present due to your past, and last but not least stop sabotaging your happiness. I know I said this before but that cannot be stressed enough.

On a side note ,   No self sabotaging isn’t done just through how you treat others but also how you treat yourself . Some people fail to realize how powerful the tongue truly is . If you live a life of self doubt and speak nothing but negative things about yourself then why would you be surprised when negative things keep happening? It is imperative that you have faith in yourself because if not how can you expect people to have faith In you. This theory also applies with loving yourself as well . Once you change your way of thinking you will gradually see things change around you . It may not happen overnight and that’s perfectly fine . Everyday is a new chance for a new beginning therefore if you backslide it’s ok . Just learn from it vow to make the next day that much better. Once you heal from within then you will see a change in your friend and relationships. 

  This is something I myself use to suffer from so I can honestly say it can feel easier said then done at times. But once you break that first wall down each day will get easier and easier. Trust me❣💕


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